It hits me once in a while. When I overhear a bit of someone else’s conversation and her life sounds more interesting than mine. When a friend tells me about something cool that she’s done since I’ve seen her, involving people I don’t even know. Or, in a different way, when a self-absorbed friend takes something random and makes it all about her.
Everyone’s got her own life. No one is the center of the universe. Or everyone is? Because of my sitcom obsession, I think about it like this:
Everyone’s the star of her own show.
I really think like that. My life is a sitcom but, unbeknownst to me, everyone is off having their own comedic or dramatic adventures.
Side note: There was even a point in my life where I thought I was the star of two shows: the original and a spin-off, like Denise on The Cosby Show when she went off to college and starred in A Different World. Literally, this is my worldview.
Well, in case there’s anyone with a non-TV based worldview (weird), I just found out there’s a name for this.
n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
-The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows
Fascinating. So, I’m guessing you know the lesson here: keep things in perspective.
Wait, actually, no that’s not the lesson.
You are the star of your own show.
Who cares that there are other shows on TV? You’re the star of your own show! So be a character you’d want to watch. Be in control of your story. Be proactive. Don’t talk about doing things, do them.
Just a little life advice from me, your trusty sidekick or funny neighbor or waitress with an attitude problem. Go forth, lovers and friends, and write something worth watching.